tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post513431948792852927..comments2023-06-11T05:05:21.136-04:00Comments on ~Perfect~: Rainbows and ButterfliesKimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04543810892911675217noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-26638487831578199652008-04-06T19:05:00.000-04:002008-04-06T19:05:00.000-04:00It's interesting to me how your daughter constantl...It's interesting to me how your daughter constantly talks about your XBF. Some children simply don't mention the person who is gone from their lives. I wonder what makes your daughter think of him and mention him so much? Especially at such a young age? I wonder if she feels the absence of resolution with him, or if it is just something she's heard from tv? <BR/><BR/>Your fear in dating anyone is understandable knowing a little about your history. (I'm behind in reading so I apologize if I have missed a recent post relevant to this discussion.) Try to remember that dating is a testing of your compatibility, whether a person could fit into your life or not, whether their life views are compatible with yours or not, etc. You're not agreeing to marry them just because you go on a date. Hmm...you weren't married to your dd's father, were you? Okay, maybe you might feel that you will wind up with a more permanent tie to a potential date than you might want. Anyway, dating is supposed to be seeing if you "click" with someone and might want to be around them more--going on a test run, maybe, to see if you want a relationship with them. It would be good for your daughter to see you going out with people, even if you decide that they are not a good fit for you in the long run. She would see you making the conscious decision that someone is not a good fit and moving on, see you making the decision that you two deserve a good person for you. To me that would give her the example that it is her choice who to be involved with, as opposed to the concept that you two are stuck with one person who turns out to be a jerk.Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15988412468706069777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-2612546305706594102008-04-05T16:30:00.000-04:002008-04-05T16:30:00.000-04:00Funny, I have read two different blogs today and b...Funny, I have read two different blogs today and both are about the same issue. Not trusting people is certainly part of the legacy of abuse but the longer you put off trying to change that behavior the more difficult it will be. Isolating and healing do not work well together. If you can't take the leap for yourself, do it for your child. She is watching you to figure out how to live in this world.Rising Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04239592070775412669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-21070211892697095282008-04-05T16:20:00.000-04:002008-04-05T16:20:00.000-04:00I'm pretty much the same way. I have very few peop...I'm pretty much the same way. I have very few people I confide in. That's why my blog has become so important to me. I can get everything out and not worry about what my "friends" will say.jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05683169496395540565noreply@blogger.com