tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post8221090962030671606..comments2023-06-11T05:05:21.136-04:00Comments on ~Perfect~: My MotherKimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04543810892911675217noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-25357947990663387632008-07-13T20:08:00.000-04:002008-07-13T20:08:00.000-04:00Carrie, No of course not!!! No offense at all. I...Carrie, <BR/>No of course not!!! No offense at all. I'm so glad that you can relate to some things I've written. It was my hope in starting this blog that I'd connect with others. While I read them all, I don't usually come back to comment on comments and, unfortunately, I've been so busy, I've not had much spare time to read other blogs lately. Sorry if I seemed stand-offish. I appreciate your comments!! :o) Keep visiting!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04543810892911675217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-47466569228358057982008-07-13T08:02:00.000-04:002008-07-13T08:02:00.000-04:00There are a lot of unresolved feelings in this pos...There are a lot of unresolved feelings in this post. I can sure understand you feeling the way you do. It's normal, that's for sure, and so very difficult at the same time. I hope this resolves for you.Rising Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04239592070775412669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-91655660588696743302008-07-12T18:08:00.000-04:002008-07-12T18:08:00.000-04:00Your post is so touching. It resonates with me. A...Your post is so touching. It resonates with me. <BR/><BR/>As a distant observer, I can accept that your mother truly loved you and didn't want to hurt you. However, it is a limitation of her own that she can't stand up for you with your brother, which is what I think you might want. Rightfully so, too. Why shouldn't she defend her own baby girl against her abuser, if she really loved you? That is such a rub, and I really can't quite understand her inability to do that. For her she can't connect the dots--and actually feel the betrayal you felt--because to do so would be to open some door that she either can't or won't open, for whatever reason. <BR/><BR/>So you are trying to empathize with her, but she isn't able to empathize with you. Maybe she can sympathize with you because of her own past, but she can't take herself to the point where she actually feels your pain. <BR/><BR/>When she says "I love you" when she leaves, you think of how crushed you would feel if your dd didn't respond to you like you don't respond to your mother; you said it would rip your heart out. But it would also rip your heart out if your baby girl had the abuse happen to her like it did to you. <BR/><BR/>And that is where the chain breaks. If your mother felt for you like you feel for your own daughter, how would she be able to have a relationship with your abuser, her son? Is it that she is so incapable of feeling her own anger or pain that she can't get in touch with any anger or pain?Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15988412468706069777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-45626283541537611062008-07-12T14:04:00.000-04:002008-07-12T14:04:00.000-04:00Hi Perfect! I have a question? Did I do something ...Hi Perfect! I have a question? Did I do something to offend u or did u find something in my blog that u didn't like? I added u as a link to my blog. I like ur writings and can relate. U have never acknowledged me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3413552144570506278.post-17677829068728482602008-07-11T16:06:00.000-04:002008-07-11T16:06:00.000-04:00I am a New York Times bestselling author working o...I am a New York Times bestselling author working on a new book about mother-daughter relationships and thought you might want to contribute a story. Please visit my blog for information about being interviewed for “Mom's Little Angel.”<BR/><BR/>Gregory E. Lang<BR/>Author of “Daddy’s Little Girl,” “Why a Daughter Needs a Dad,” “Why a Daughter Needs a Mom” and more.Greghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11591296358982422953noreply@blogger.com